November 23, 2020

EastAfrica Herald

East African Views on Global News.

I have lost six wives to AIDS

“I have lost six wives
to AIDS! But how come whenever I test, I am HIV negative? Does it mean I am
immune to the virus?”

This question stunned a
crowd that had gathered in Kalangala town for a voluntary counseling and
testing crusade on Tuesday.

It was organised by
Walter Clinic and Strides for Family Health, a USAID-funded healthcare
When the over 400 people
were given an opportunity to ask questions, Vincent Kyambadde volunteered his

He said he was 52 and
that every woman he married had died after suffering a painful illness that
failed to respond to any treatment, until he decided to go for an HIV test. 
He had since had about
150 tests, all of which proved he was negative.

Adjacent to him, sat
Immaculate Nabayengo, his wife, in a gomesi and breastfeeding their oneyear-
old daughter. Kyambadde, a resident of Bugala village in Kalangala town
council, later detailed to
Saturday Vision his
confusing life of bereavement and futile attempts to rebuild his life.

From witchcraft to proof
When Kyambadde’s first wife, Jane Mirembe, failed to get out of bed in 1978,
close relatives suspected witchcraft.

As a peasant in Mikisa
village, Bigasa sub-county, Masaka, he tried traditional healers to save her
life. But Mirembe passed on a year later. Kyambadde moved to Kampala and
started dealing in timber from Mukono. Three months later, he got a wife, Julie
Nabuuma who, two years later, developed similar symptoms as his first wife
before her health failed her. She died in 1981.
They were living in

In 1982, Kyambadde
shifted to Nateete, Kinaawa and got a third wife, Namande Namusoke, but this
one did not last long. She died that very year after 11 months. Kyambadde was
convinced that someone had cast an evil spell on him. Later, in 1985, when
people started talking about AIDS, Kyambadde recalled the symptoms of his late

However, his fourth
wife, Namaganda, whom he got in June of that year, looked like she would
survive her predecessors’ peril. But she died in September 1987. The following
year, Kyambadde went to Kakunyu, a landing site in Kyotera. There, he took his
first HIV test. He was negative.
Proof of HIV
The negative test
encouraged him to marry Hasfa Nantumbwe in 1988. Four years later, she started
falling sick. The two visited an HIV clinic and he was found to be HIV
negative, although his wife was positive. “We tested several times and she was
positive but I remained negative!” he says. When Nantumbwe passed on in 1992,
Kyambadde returned to Namuwongo, Kampala but sometimes stayed in Kitintale.

He married Justine
Nakamoga in 1996. The two lived together for four years and had three children.
When they returned home in Bigasa, she fell sick. They went for an HIV test and
Kyambadde was found to be negative. Unfortunately, Nakamoga was HIV positive.
She died in 1999.

“Nakamoga’s death was so
painful,” he told Saturday Vision. “She was so hardworking and caring. She was
the best among all my wives,” he said.

Kyambadde then decided
to migrate to Kalangala and built his present home but chose to remain single.
“I gave up women for nine years. I was afraid that having lost all six wives
and within that period,
I did a lot of testing,
in different clinics. But wherever I went, I was found to be negative. In
total, I have tested about five times each year,” he said displaying his result

Eventually, he met
Nabayengo, his current wife and they both tested negative. They got married in
2008 and now have two children.

“All my six children are
also HIV negative!” he said happily.
Dr. Enock Kizito, who
works at the counselling and testing fair, says Kyambadde is HIV negative if
the tests have shown he does not have the virus. “When only one person in the
relationship is positive, we call it a discordant relationship,” he explained.
“This happens because it is not a guarantee that if you have HIV and sleep with
someone who is negative, infection will occur.”

Kizito added that there
is no guarantee that Kyambadde’s wives, who died before testing, were HIV
positive. They may have died due to other factors.

Uganda has a high
discordance rate. According to WHO, over 50% of HIV positive persons have
HIVnegative partners. Prof. George Kirya, a virologist and former professor of
medical microbiology at the Makerere University medical school,
comments: “I don’t think there is a clear explanation to discordance,” he says.
“But I think he (Kyambadde) is a careless man; how can you lose six wives and
you continue marrying more?”

Source: New Vision